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It's become a thing to hide behind a virtual wall and become something you're not. That's why I prefer meeting someone through mutual friends or activities. There aren't any surprises. Why do I need to find a guy at an 'Urban Night? It's like you are a mistress but aren't since you both are single. I understand that people are in very different places in their coming-out process when they are Each guy is at a different place in their gay maturity.

Though I respect that, I still want to find someone in a similar place of coming out. It can feel like babysitting otherwise. Even though they're absolutely correct, maybe my idea of fun is not being single. I know what 'wild and crazy fun' is out there, but I already got it out of my system.

I feel that I'm ready to settle down. So yeah, I have every right to want to be with someone. They're too busy partying, going crazy, sleeping around, or being too narcissistic to care about someone else. I feel like a lot of the younger gays lack empathy and just don't possess the qualities necessary to have a healthy relationship. Everyone seems to have a few screws loose that I've met, and it just doesn't end up working out. In the past couple years, I've dated older men because I wanted a solid, responsible man in my life, but these dates only helped me realize that I'm not ready to be comfortable yet.

And while I'm not dating older men now, I can't help but feel immediately disconnected from people my own age. But I want to make one thing clear: There seems to be this assumption, especially when you are more attracted to older guys, that you want something from them because you are a poor twentysomething with no direction.

Not true. We are all trying to figure out how we are going to stage the rest of our lives. So, it takes an extra couple steps to find someone in a similar stage of life with a schedule that works with yours, with similar goals, and who is willing to make a commitment. Everything is ever-changing.

I'm so tired of going on one date with a guy and then he thinks we are an item. And, in general, I despise this notion we have in our culture today that you have to be practically already in a relationship to date.

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After seeing an attractive guy, you have to make small talk. Only when you have learned about the person do you ask them on a date. It's not that serious. If you see a guy you like, ask him out. If it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out. Let's chat there later. He later did find me on there later, but I ignored him simply because You get two men together, something is always bound to happen. But, that can be a complicated issue. I've been on many first dates sealed with sex at the end of the night.

I feel like a lot of gay people, not all, feel like something's missing otherwise, but sex is definitely like the goodnight kiss rather than something uber romantic. And most apps are hookup apps.

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It's just too easy to get a fix. Who wants to go through all that dating bullshit? Share On facebook Share On facebook Share. Share On vk Share On vk Share. Share On lineapp Share On lineapp. The messaging minefield! Sexy talk must be a dialogue. No need to self-flagellate, but examine your own behaviour with women.

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Be a good guy, trustworthy and honest. Listen to her. Do some reading, empathise and discuss — without mansplaining. This is not a debate. Why does giving something a cute name lend it a veneer of respectability? Why do they take so many pictures of themselves in front of the same dirty mirror? But it has its pitfalls: That said, labelling a relationship too early can be its death. Perhaps the most important point of all. Snap out of it.

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