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I just have preferences. How these things are said with such casualness shows the insidious powers of language. Being so upfront and flip in denying conversation with an entire race is, let's face it, pretty racist.

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It's gross how someone could be so upfront about a dislike for a race: You're cute, but no Asians for me. Eventually, I became fed up and got off apps, and I continue to put little effort in online dating. The one that still stands out for me to this day was when I met a guy through a friend, who I eventually asked out for coffee.

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It seemed to go well, and before I knew it, we had spent a couple of hours talking at the cafe. This one has lived abroad in South Korea. He tells me he likes my tattoos and asks how my parents feel about them. Where ya going, baby?

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One study conducted across four U. However, there are those sly fetishists who can appear innocuous on the outside but have yellow fever vibes brewing beneath the surface. They all managed to white-splain Chinese or Asian culture, whether in the form of travel stories, pop culture, anime, or tales of the Asian communities they immerse themselves in while simultaneously putting me on a pedestal for, well, just being Asian. These casual relationships have been short-lived. I only got into them because I was not fully aware, at first, that I was being fetishized.

Perhaps these men are looking for an Asian woman who fits the stereotype of being submissive and quiet, but I am hardly that. I grew up in a largely white city in Ohio, and I always have been and always will be vocal about mistreatment of people of color and backwards politics. So why have my partners all been white?

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The first was with a classmate from my predominantly white high school. A little taken aback, we told him we weren't together but had friends that might fit the bill.

He went on to explain that many of his friends were Asian men who thought Anglo-Australian women just weren't interested in dating them. His website was his way of showing this wasn't true. After a fittingly awkward goodbye, I never saw that man or, concerningly, his website again, but the unusual encounter stayed with me.

It was the first time someone had given voice to an insecurity I held but had never felt comfortable communicating.

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My first relationship was with a Western girl when I was growing up in Perth, and I never felt like my race was a factor in how it started or ended. I was generally drawn to Western girls because I felt we shared the same values. At the time, I rarely felt that assumptions were made about me based on my ethnicity, but things changed when I moved to Melbourne for university. In a new city, stripped of the context of my hometown, I felt judged for the first time, like I was subtly but surely boxed into an "Asian" category.

On a date, a guy actually told me "he's a no rice, no spice kinda guy."

So, I consciously tried to be a boy from WA, to avoid being mistaken for an international student. Since then, my experience as a person of colour in Australia has been defined the question: It's a never-ending internal dialogue that adds complexity and confusion to aspects of life that are already turbulent — and dating is where it hit me the hardest. I'm in a relationship now, and my partner is white.